Raising Confident Kids

Last night, as I was doing research on the 2008 election, I stumbled across a Christian website for men. The website titled, The New Man Magazine, is a great tool for Christina men who wants to improve aspects of their lives that need attention. From faith to fitness, this website covers it all.

In the blog section, I saw this piece on fatherhood and thought I should feature it on my blog. Raising Confident Kids is the title of the post and Tommy Newberry's main theory is the power of Positive Memory.

Newberry explains that,

Kids with real confidence have what I call a “Positive Memory.” This means that they tend to notice and stay mindful of what they do right, instead of what they do wrong. This mental habit is learned (or not learned) as a result of exposure to grown-ups who possess and emphasize this positive memory.

Therefore,

When your children see that they’ve made progress–even a little–they want to succeed even more. This gets the momentum going. Often, as dads, we shut our eyes to the progress our kids are making because we’re fixated on perfection. But demanding perfection is a toxic mental habit that only serves to amplify your children’s weaknesses.

I really like this theory and it goes great with Newberry's philosophy of having a Philippians 4:8 attitude.

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things." (Philippians 4:8 NIV)

In conclusion, Newberry urges us to,

Remember, what gets impressed through your habitual thinking gets expressed through your circumstances.

Amen Brother.